Treatment for Eating Disorder Biddeford ME

Relationships take time and energy to develop, but so does disordered eating. I spent so much time around the thoughts of what or what not to eat, eating, and then hiding what I had done, that I didn't have the time necessary to create healthy, authentic relationships. I was uncomfortable being around other people because I felt inadequate and ashamed of my eating disorder.

Margaret Dineen
(207) 651-0135
Bridford, ME
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, School
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mary Lyons
(207) 284-0074
Old Orchard Bch, ME
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Karen Fisher
(207) 358-4321
Karen Fisher, LCSW131 Ocean Street
South Portland, ME
Specialties
Anxiety or Fears, Depression, Emotional Eating, Mood Disorders
Qualification
School: Boston College Graduate School of Social Work
Year of Graduation: 1997
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults,Elders (65+)
Average Cost
$80 - $80
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Lindy Graham
(207) 358-3460
Portland, ME
Specialties
Eating Disorders, Anxiety or Fears, Relationship Issues, Mood Disorders
Qualification
School: Smith College School for Social Work
Year of Graduation: 2004
Years In Practice: 7 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults,Elders (65+)
Average Cost
$80 - $130
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Stephanie Mcleod-Estevez
(207) 358-3477
470 Forest Ave, Suite 209
Portland, ME
Specialties
Anxiety or Fears, Eating Disorders, Loss or Grief, Mood Disorders
Qualification
School: Lesley University
Year of Graduation: 2004
Years In Practice: 7 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any, Latino
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults
Average Cost
$70 - $110
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Jane Ann McCabe
(207) 602-2549
Biddeford, ME
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Counselor Education, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Linda J Cooke
(207) 358-4675
83 Portland Road
Kennebunk, ME
Specialties
Eating Disorders, Trauma and PTSD, Anxiety or Fears, Dissociative Disorders
Qualification
School: Boston College
Year of Graduation: 1991
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults,Elders (65+)
Average Cost
$100+
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No
Accepts Credit Cards: Yes
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Trisha Brink Ellis
(207) 358-3493
222 St. John Street
Portland, ME
Specialties
Eating Disorders, Depression, Anxiety or Fears, Personality Disorders
Qualification
School: University of Southern Maine
Year of Graduation: 2005
Years In Practice: 5 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults
Average Cost
up to $100
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Mr. Robert J Tate Jr
(207) 358-4616
38 Pleasant Street
Portland, ME
Specialties
Relationship Issues, Depression, Eating Disorders
Qualification
School: Smith College
Year of Graduation: 1982
Years In Practice: 30+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults
Average Cost
$90+
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Dr. Susan Penza-Clyve
(207) 756-4278
178 Middle Street
Portland, ME
Specialties
Eating Disorders, Anxiety or Fears, Depression
Qualification
School: University of Maine
Year of Graduation: 1999
Years In Practice: 8 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: Female
Age: Adolescents,Adults
Average Cost
$120 - $130
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Relationships and Disordered Eating

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Relationships and Disordered Eating

Rebecca Cooper - 7/11/2007

I have learned many things about myself that I did not know when I had an eating disorder. One is that food was my best friend, my primary relationship. I "went" to food like some people would go to a trusted friend or confidant.

When Food is the Primary Relationship
Relationships take time and energy to develop, but so does disordered eating. I spent so much time around the thoughts of what or what not to eat, eating, and then hiding what I had done, that I didn't have the time necessary to create healthy, authentic relationships. I was uncomfortable being around other people because I felt inadequate and ashamed of my eating disorder. I was afraid that they would find out about my secret and confirm that I was a bad person. It felt safer and more comfortable to be at home alone with my eating disorder than trying to fit in socially. Using food in this manner prevented me from building social skills.
It was also impossible for me to be honest, which is important in relationships, because I had to hide what I was doing -exercising to extreme, spending huge amounts of time, energy and money on bingeing and purging, disappearing after meals, etc. Although communication is part of any social interaction, when I was in the depths of my eating disorder, I had nothing to talk about. Was I going to say that I ate a quart of ice cream by myself last night? The disorder took the place of hobbies, interests, and other activities that most people find interesting.
So, although food seemed like my "best" friend, the shame of it robbed me of any other relationship. It even prevented me from knowing and being the real me. Eventually, it became necessary to give up the eating disorder in order to find out who I was. It became more important for me to experience love than to hold onto the eating disorder.

Replacing Food with Friends
One important part of recovery, then, is being able to speak the truth, instead of hiding behind food. Learning skills such as negotiation, humor, anger management, compromise, and cooperation is essential to that process. If you have used an eating disorder as means of communication, developing these skills will take courage and practice.
Also, in order to have an authentic, healthy relationship with another person, you must be willing to get to know yourself and then be vulnerable enough to share that self, faults and all. Pretending to be someone other than who ...

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